Date Published: September 2026
Publisher: Serapis Bey Publishing
TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE WITH THE WAY YOU SPEAK
As human beings, we have a deep need for social connection, yet our primitive fight-or-flight response can be a major barrier to achieving it, leading to misunderstanding, conflict and disconnection.
Fortunately, there is a solution.
The Human Language delivers a compelling message. By replacing our habitual, learned patterns of communication we can experience greater understanding, empathy and connection in our relationships, transforming our lives.
Through easy-to-follow chapters, this book introduces The MECAnism, to calm your instinctive reactions, gain emotional clarity and develop psychological safety. It gives you the practical tools and techniques to listen, speak and act in your daily life with compassion, for yourself and others, enabling you to meet your needs with confidence.
Pam Bryant, Oxford, UK
"Penny uses just enough science to help the reader understand why they behave the way they do while focusing on simple techniques to get to the heart of change.
The Human Language should be required reading for anybody who has to work or live with other people, which is most of us."
Diana D'Ascoli, Philadelphia, US
Excerpt
The four sections consist of:
1. Identify our ‘learnt’ human communication patterns—sets the
scene, identifies how we currently speak, and how our learnt
language dominates our lives and leads to disconnection,
disharmony and disengagement. You will no doubt recognise in
this your own mind chatter and typical conversations with others.
2. Reflect for self-understanding and prepare for learning—
provides groundwork exercises to help you get to know yourself
better, discover your values and core beliefs, and set your goals,
in preparation for learning a new language.
3. Framework to improve your self-awareness, relationships and
life situations—
The MECAnism for self-reflection and managing
feelings, for empathising with others, and for holding more
compassionate, productive conversations with anyone, from your
partner and children to your manager and work colleagues.
4. Case Studies examining ways to address specific situations—a
wide range of everyday scenarios from home, family and work
life, mapping out how conversations typically pan out in our learnt
language, and how they can be translated into The Human
Language.
My intention is for The MECAnism to bring the principles of
emotional intelligence, psychological safety and nonviolent
communication easily to anyone who wants to transform their lives
through the way they speak and listen. The MECAnism provides a
framework for communicating, as well as an ebb and flow between
your mind and your body, and between yourself and other people.
These two motions are like the blood that runs through your arteries
away from and back to the heart, with the heart always at the centre
of whatever you are saying and doing.
About the Author
Penny Newton-Hurley is the founder of CommPassion Ltd. She has worked with large private organisations in the UK and globally, and in the public sector across the areas of government, military, healthcare and education for more than 30 years. CommPassion provides training in interpersonal communication skills, resolving conflict between individuals and building psychological safety within teams for higher workplace and relationship performance.
In 2025, her company launched their first four online courses, taking their expertise and experience from the world of business directly to individuals in all areas of their lives. This book reveals the details behind her courses and supports the learning of improved communications skills.
Communication has been a fascination for Penny since childhood, when she spoke with her father in Morse Code! After a few exciting years spent working in International Marketing, Penny had an opportunity to be involved in the nascent field of Internal Communication where she began to understand the importance of humanto-human connection in the workplace. In 2005, she was introduced to the teachings of nonviolent communication. From that moment on, it became her purpose to spread this message as far as possible, a mission to change the way we talk and listen and communicate with each other; to change the way the world speaks.
Today, she is a trainer of compassionate communication techniques, Workplace Mediator, Certified Psychological Safety Facilitator with the Fearless Organisation; as well as a UK Samaritans Listening Volunteer. Penny holds a BA (Combined Honours) in Modern Languages (French/Spanish) with Politics, Economics and Linguistics.
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